While I could try to turn this post into a literary masterpiece, I'll just cut to the chase!

I'll even skip over (sorta) all the usual points that bring people like us to a place like this (i.e., deadbedroom, libido mismatch, neglect, etc.) and the obvious asks (i.e., looking for spark, attraction, attention, affection, "more," etc.).

Instead I'll highlight what makes my search relatively unique from others.

I'm looking for someone who wants to have lengthy conversations about anything and everything. I'm a "chatty cathy" ... a natural story teller. And I'd love to write to someone almost like a penpal ... but who would be more than a "pal" (I already have a pal, but don't have someone who is more than a pal). Our exchanges would be more like love letters ... even though those are usually between two lovers and not two people who are getting to know each other. So maybe we would be pen-more-than-pals. PPWB? Haha. :)

Now, that's not to say that there wouldn't be any syncrenous rapid-fire chatting. There likely will be. But I'd like to find someone who can go the distance and isn't just a short sprinter (sorry if the running analogies are lost on anyone; I'm a former track & football guy).

That's also not to say that I'm not looking for something that could potentially lead to in-person ... interactions ;) Actually that is my preference (strong preference!). But in my years of searching, I've found that hope/wish to be on par with trying to win the lottery. And, accordingly, I've expanded my search beyond what's nearby.

So that's what I'm looking for. Now, of course, how well our conversations will go will come down to compatibility/chemistry. So it may be helpful for you to know a little about me.

I'm Asian, 44, married (deadbedroom) with kids, in the "DMV" area (DC, Maryland, Virginia) ... more specifically Northern Virginia, aka "NoVA", near Washington, DC. As stated earlier, I'm really chatty (a natural storyteller) and I'm a former athlete (track and football) ... so I'm in relatively good shape even though I don't work out as much as I used to or as I'd like to. If height matters to you, I'm 5'9". I'm also a former overachiever who is now without a checklist (something I need to work on). I don't do drugs. I don't drink. Heck, I don't even swear (in person, anyway, but oddly enough will on occasion via chat). :) Not that I'm against any of that. Just not what I do. I'm also into music (i.e., singing, listening to many different genres, but no playing of instruments), sci-fi, fantasy, crime solving (shows, books, etc.), superhero stuff, "chick flicks," romcoms, and more recently Japanese anime (to name a FEW).

About you: I think if you clicked on this post and have read this far (and enjoyed it), we are probably compatible enough to engage in a conversation to at least get to know one another to see what sort of chemistry we have. I don't need to say what your likes and dislikes should be or say you should have this quality or that characteristic. I think the same goes for appearance as well. While we all have preferences, I've come to realize that it's probably not a good idea to describe what type of women I tend to be attracted to. In doing so, I may discourage someone really great from responding. But I think at minimum, you should view yourself as relatively pretty and try to exercise every now and then (vs rarely or never) ... for health reasons if not for appearances. Also, I think things would work out for the best if one of your love languages is "touch." That's my love language. And while I do "speak" other love languages, I just think things could go so much better if we shared that language. But, admittedly, that's just a theory of mine.

Well, if you've gotten this far, send me a message already! And don't worry about writing a catchy, Pulitzer-winning first message. I'm not going to ignore your one-liner. I'm a guy. Our inboxes don't get flooded with messages like women. :) And I will reply. So I hope to hear from you! Yes, you!