I’ve tried making and responding to many much more generic posts with varying success. I’ve tried to keep the details of my interests reserved for conversation in the past. It’s a real bummer when you start to like someone then find you are too far apart either sexually or emotionally for things to work out. Experimenting to see if doing the opposite does a better job at connecting me with someone early.

I’m going to talk about things more graphically. If you read this and it isn’t for you, no problem just move along. I deal with enough judgment at home and random people also being mean is still hurtful. I wouldn’t be here if things were perfect in my life. Be nice please.

Some about me. I’m 36, very masculine looking, strong body, body hair, beard, tall, I’ve been told handsome a time or two. I’m also bisexual and will occasionally have some more feminine ways about me. I would consider my at home relationship to be a dead bedroom both physically and emotionally.I am very in touch with my emotions and having shared vulnerability is important to me when it comes to a relationship of any kind. I am not afraid of opening up and letting people in. I think it’s very needed to form something intimate and satisfying.

Sexually I’m a switch with deep seated needs and desires on both sides of the spectrum. I don’t need someone to tick every single box, since there are many, but similar general desires need to be there. Not everything has to be about sex and kink all the time, but it is an important part of the relationship that can’t be ignored or minimized. When my sexual needs are regularly satisfied I very much enjoy hanging out, bantering, teasing, and enjoying each other’s company.

Here is the part where I’m likely to lose some people. Remember, it’s ok to not be into everything but I also need you to not be judgmental about it if you still want to chat. Physically I don’t care what someone looks like all that much. I tend to prefer curvy and my age or older. Ultimately it’s someone’s mind and shared interests that will catch my attention. So down to the kinks. Most of the general BDSM things are enjoyed or wanted so I’ll list the common ones. I’m a switch so this list applies both in giving and receiving when possible. Power exchange, orgasm control, degradation, anal, spitting, spanking, biting, ruining, consensual forced play, sounding, watersports, breastfeeding. Many more but I don’t think a truly exhaustive list is needed.

At the core of everything it’s all about connection. These are very personal, intimate, and important to be for one reason or another. Dynamically, I am very comfortable being called daddy as well as calling my partner mommy or a similar title with the right vibe. Happy to discuss any of it. My post is getting long enough and I feel I’ve shown enough of myself upfront for anyone that might be interested. Interested to see how this plays out. Thanks for reading.