I’ve browsed this sub off and on, but something has always seemed to be missing. I understand some people are looking for certain things and some are looking for others. But for the most part, what I have seen is that most people state they aren’t happy and need something else - totally understandable.

But are there others out there that are pretty happy and just need a fresh connection? I struggle with how to best describe this. As for me, things are actually pretty good. If you saw me out and about or hanging out somewhere you wouldn’t think anything is amiss and you’d be correct. Having said that, there is a part of me that misses the fresh connection, the butterflies, and energy you can’t get enough of. I’m not looking to change anyone’s situation and certainly not looking to change mine - perhaps someone out there will read this and understand where I’m coming from.

As for me, I’m early 40’s, solid career, married and all that. I stay busy with my job but I enjoy being driven and staying productive. I stay in shape, eat well, and try to take care of myself. There are times I feel incredibly driven and extroverted, and there are other times where I just need time alone to recharge. So when people ask me about my personality I don’t know what to tell them exactly. Physically I’m not a dad bod and I’m not a gym rat - so you’d find me somewhere in the middle.

What would I like to find? Honestly, someone that fits in that middle ground and understands that a great connection comes in many different forms. Someone that understands this can be a balance; it isn’t totally about sex but it’s also not about falling in love with someone either. Someone that loves to laugh and enjoys great back and forth conversation. I would expect the person i connect with to live a busy life and understand that it wouldn’t be so easy to talk all the time - there are just times when life’s priorities are, well, priorities. I am also drawn to thoughtful people who can have deep meaningful conversations but at the same time understand the importance of laughing together in a good relationship.

If you read all this, fit that middle ground and are curious, well I’d love to hear from you. If not, that’s ok and I wish you well in your own journey.