… been made a slave to your sexual fantasies - things you secretly desire but afraid to admit?

I’m an experienced, creative, secure and open minded Kansas native looking to engage with a woman of similar situation who is passionate about life, and yearns to live it up while they can for a rewarding extramarital relationship.

About Me

Physically- I’m 52 years old, married with kids, tall, full head of blonde hair and blue eyes. I’m not perfect but I like who I am. I’m energetic, active, DDF and non-smoker with a high endurance and repeatability (i.e. everything works and works more than once). Physical, mental and emotional care is important to me and I practice it quite well.

Personality- I’m a mixture of passion, fearlessness and support with a good measure of deviance to keep it interesting. I was raised to be strong and a gentleman. I’ve also learned to not put up a shell and allow myself to be share aspect of myself I wouldn’t otherwise share. I believe a woman should be free to live how she wants, and when she needs me I’ll be there to rescue her from her captive life. People describe me as witty, easy to talk to, open, curious, patient and driven. With three degrees I consider myself educated and can hold conversations beyond just chatting about sex. I believe in mental stimulation as part of foreplay and excel at it. Above all, I have a great sense of humor with a large dose of sarcasm to go along with it. While I have a Dom side, my respect for boundaries means you’ll not feel like a possession or have to worry about my crossing your lines, rather you’ll be a partner in a fulfilling relationship.

Interests- My interests are diverse and include a mix of social and homebound activities. I enjoy cooking, working out, biking, gaming (table top and cards), and reading/writing. I also enjoy going out to social events and fundraiser activities in the community including events with my affair partner. I could go one. People describe me as adventurous and daring, a risk taker. I’m open to new ideas and new challenges to push my limits.

Daily Life- I’m self employed allowing me to set my hours and schedule as I want. Being independent, I can travel with planning thus long distance relationships have been successful for me in the past quite well. Another benefit of being self employed is I’m able to make time for my partner throughout the day and evenings and I expect the same.

Who I’m Looking For

Let’s be honest here, this is an extramarital relationship. I’m married, so to should you. It means equal risk for us both. As far as age goes, I ask that you be 30 as I find the younger ladies aren’t as committed and serious about the affair. I also find it easier to relate to an older woman who offers something the younger women don’t. Looks aren’t as important as long as you are happy with yourself; I’m not shallow. Confidence is very sexy, and if you are happy with who you are, so am I.

My ideal partner in this should feel she needs this type of relationship to fulfill a void missing at home. She should realize she has a life there yet wishes to have some sort of escape from time to time. Her personality should match with mine and be able to tolerate witty banter and occasional sarcasm. I want my partner to be available for me but all the time. I know careers and family exist, but I do look to communication to keep things fresh and alive.

Location- This the affairs sub. I’m willing to start online but want to meet IRL if things should go that way. I’m in Kansas (Wichita area) for whatever that’s worth. I do travel to Denver, Dallas, Tulsa, KC, OKC sometimes. Other locations I can do for the right lady with planning. I can manage the long distance with someone I find special if she is willing to put forth the work as well.

Deal Breakers- My major deal breakers are cigarette smokers, nonDDF, not being honest about things in how the relationship is going, or looking for money to change hands. If you aren’t serious about this type of relationship, I would prefer to not waste time. I’m all in and committed to the cause; you should be too.

The Relationship

I’m looking for one partner to share a (hopefully) long term mutually exclusive relationship. This includes regular conversations via text, voice and video, sharing and experiencing fantasies, and generally being satisfied in ways we aren’t at home. I want regular engagement time where we can unwind and be ourselves. As I mentioned if we should progress to IRL the possibility exists for weekend getaways and vacations. I’m looking for a good mental and emotional connection and possibly a physical connection.

Experience- This is not my first rodeo. I do hope though I’ll find one where I won’t need to go looking for another. Over the years I’ve learned what I like and what I am after hence this long post. If this is your first time, I’ll be kind and offer advice to make it a pleasurable experience for you. I’m an open book and if you ask I’ll tell. I’ve provided a lot of advice on this lifestyle to people. If it’s not your first, then you already know.

If this long post has piqued your interest I hope you will drop me a note.