I know the competition is stiff around here (no pun intended), but I’d like to throw my hat in the ring in hopes of finding something special. I want this to be light, fun, and real.

Let me start with a thank you for being here! I know the calculated risk you are taking to be reading this and you wouldn’t be here if you didn’t want to be. There’s no way you’re here by accident. I’ll try to tell you about myself and if it sounds like something you’re interested in, then reach out and we can see where things can go.

I’m a family man that frankly, no one would suspect of lurking around these parts. That’s sometimes the hard part when being open to new possibilities. My reputation is that I'm the nice, overly considerate guy, but life has brought me to this place where I long for adventure with another adventurous woman who wants the same. Don’t get me wrong… life is good and I don’t want to throw it away. However, I’m the eternal optimist, and I find that optimism is also helpful in this situation.

If we were to build something, I’ll be patient, respectful, and plan to grow into something that is 100% mutually beneficial. I’m hoping to find someone local(ish) that has some flexibility during the day to chat and potentially meet up. I’m easy going and easy to talk to. I hope you have given this a lot of thought and are aware of what you’re doing and getting into. If this is your first time dabbling in this behavior, I can coach you through, but only if you’re sure this is a road you want to be on. It’s also cool if you’re looking for a new AP that’s confident and has the possibility for long term. In an ideal situation, I’ll find the right woman that I could potentially catch feelings for - yes there’s risk, but I’ll be up front - I’m not changing our individual situations. OPSEC is the #1 priority for me as we both have a lot at risk. I promise to do my part to protect what you love if in return, you'll do your part to protect what I love by being smart with our technology and conversations.

I want to be your secret motivator. I want people around you to ask you why you’re smiling when you get lost in your thoughts. I’m not into spouse bashing, but simply want to add some spice to our lives. I’m attracted to real women who still take care of themselves. I’m looking for a natural beauty, age 30-50 and if you have curves, that’s A-okay. If you have kids, great! There’s some common ground where we can talk about how gentle parenting is an impossible task and doesn’t work - even though we still try. I’m 39, fit, handsome with some tattoos.

Thanks for making it this far. Feel free to message or chat me with your age and what you hope to find with the random dad from Reddit.