Hey there,

I’m 45, 5'10", 170 lbs, with black hair, and I like to think I’ve aged like a fine wine—getting better with time. Well-groomed, full head of salt and pepper hair, well-read, well-traveled, and thriving in my career on Seattle’s eastside. Brag alert: I’ve been told I’m handsome, easy to talk to, and carry myself well (and nope, not just by my mom—this comes from potential APs).

I’m married, but dealing with a dead-bedroom situation because of a mismatch in, let’s say, bedroom appetites. If you’re living through the same, I get it—it's tough. I’ve had an AP before, and while she moved away, it was an incredible connection in 3 ways: emotional, intellectual and physical. Now, I’m hoping to create those magic moments again with someone special.

I’m looking for an AP who’s also married and craving a secret boyfriend to add some fun (and spice) to life. No interest in financial exchanges, no one under 35, and definitely not looking to disrupt your or my current situation.

Here’s what matters most to me:

Mutual Attraction

Let’s face it—attraction is the spark that sets everything in motion. I’m not just looking for a quick "in and out," unless we’re talking about sneaking into a store together for some late-night mischief. I want real chemistry—the kind that makes us feel like the perfect doubles team. I keep myself in shape (inside and out) and love when someone else does too. Confidence? That’s like foreplay for the mind.

Emotional Availability

I’m looking for someone who’s emotionally present—someone who checks in daily, maybe with a flirty message or two. Think of me as your emotional cheerleader (minus the short skirt). I’m here for the deep talks about life, love, and everything in between, but also for the light banter that keeps us smiling all day. I’ll be the person you want to share those “I can’t wait to tell him” moments with.

Respect for Boundaries

I’m all about respecting boundaries—you could say I know when to pull back and when to lean in. I’m the kind of guy who’ll send a “How’s your day?” message, but won’t pop up unexpectedly (unless you want me to). I understand the need for a second life where you can truly be yourself, and I’m here to offer that without intruding on your main life. And yes, I’ve fallen for my AP before—it happens when things get… deep. I know the pain of separation, but I’d dive right in again for the right connection.

Shared Desires

If you’ve got a naughty side you’ve been hiding, I’m here to help you let her out to play. Let’s explore those kinks you’ve kept under wraps. No judgment here—just a lot of enthusiasm. After all, they say variety is the spice of life, and I’m more than ready to spice things up with you. Let’s just say I’m the type of guy who knows when to take it slow and when to… well, you get the idea.

Discreet & Realistic

I’ve got a busy life—between parenting, inflation struggles, and trying to hit the pickleball court when the wait time isn’t too long, I’m not looking to add any unnecessary drama. I’m all about a discreet, fun connection that doesn’t complicate things. I’ve got the OPSEC figured out from my last AP, so meeting up regularly and staying in touch won’t be a problem. Oh, and speaking of pickleball—why did the player bring a ladder? To reach new heights in their serve! (Okay, I’ll stop, but don’t worry—I’m much better at other things than I am at pickleball puns.)

If you’re open to it, let’s see if we can create something exciting, discreet, and mutually satisfying. Life’s too short not to have a little secret adventure that makes everything else more thrilling.

Looking forward to hearing from you! And here’s hoping your day feels a little less like a long pickleball match and more like a quick, satisfying game of doubles—if you know what I mean.

P.S. Forgive my attempt at humor—I’m always working on it (along with a few other skills).

P.P.S. I get that as a girl, you’re likely getting tons of messages and have options. Let’s cut through the noise—if you want, we can have a quick chat or video call on Telegram/Signal. It’ll take less than 5 minutes to see if we’re each other’s type. No hard feelings if we’re not a match—just be upfront, I will wish you well be respectful of your time.