Like the rest of you here, my marriage isn’t perfect, but it works, mostly. We’ve worked a lot of things out, but physical intimacy is still hard to come by. And that’s hard for me, because I thrive on it. Not just sex, but physical touch in general. It’s what helps me feel seen, loved, appreciated, and so forth. Especially when I give so much of myself— putting in the time and work in the relationship, as a parent, at my job and around the house. Bottom line is: I’m not getting the attention I need from this arrangement.

We’ve talked it over time and again, and well, it comes down to her personal issues that don’t have as much to do with me, as they do her; I won’t discuss here, out of respect. Suffice to say, after another recent convo on the matter, she suggested again, for the hundredth time or so now—that I should seek elsewhere for those things. How many times does someone have to tell you before you take it and run with it? So that’s where I’m at. I don’t want to change my situation or yours, I just want to find someone that I can connect with physically and mentally. A person to create a space with, where we can be seen and heard, appreciated, and enjoy one another to our heart’s content. If that interests you then don’t be shy… I only bite with consent.

The details— I’m 6’0 tall / 220lbs. Muscular dadbod build, with long brown hair and blue eyes. Happy to trade pics if we get to that point.

I hit the gym 4-5 time per week, love a good adventure and getting out of my comfort zone, hiking, nature, beaches, forests, cooking, good food, coffee, beer/wine/spirits/cocktails. Not really into sports but can feign interest. Enjoy some gaming, movies and shows. I like to please, and give excellent massages, back rubs and love me some cuddles. Pet friendly. DDF (been with the same person 13 yrs) and 420/alcohol friendly.

I work from home (north/east bay) but travel around the area—Benicia, Fairfield, Vacaville, Vallejo, Napa. Ideally you are in that area or willing to travel, have a sense of humor and some shared interests.

Ladies, let’s keep it classy—no topless pics or one line responses ;) let’s chat, and if it feels right, grab a coffee or a drink and see where this goes. xoxo