Hello, thanks for stopping by!

I'm a dude that's trying to figure things out, like everything. Is the path I'm on the right one? Is there a right path? First I think I need to figure out the wants and needs, however some of them I probably am not even aware of yet. Finding my favorites!

I am in a longterm(10 years) relationship and my partner is not aware. In the early times of meeting people online I kept her in the loop, but eventually had to tighten things up. I think you gotta learn things somehow, sure I could google, browse forums, seek some answers. I like learning with a person perhaps. I have also let friends drift away and find myself needing an outlet of sorts. Someone slightly interesting with a story to tell. I like having a pocket person of sorts to figure things out with, enjoy, learn, laugh, be ourselves! Super special people can last a while, forever type of friends!

I believe I'm to the point where things need to do something, change, become clearer, find this imaginary path. We've discussed briefly about opening things up. Alcohol is usually involved and my desires tend to come out. I also drink very rarely so this has become a problem being loose and open maybe. I wonder if Poly/ENM could work in my situation. Orrr should I be focusing on the sneaky and getting better with that. Maybe you're well versed in the advanced human relationships and can point me in the right direction after some talking. Maybe you've "beent there and done that"

So, have you had cold feet? Unsure of the situations, how did you have your eyes opened up? Did you have a guru of sorts? Do you have a story? I know there's horror stories of opening up long term relationships.

I'm a pretty easy going, not too serious dude, that wishes he could find some creativity inside. I have some ways, but I want more! Motivations, tips, tricks, I want to learn all your secrets to surviving! I'm fascinated by the mind and how it works, drugs, I'm looking into cultivating mushrooms and microdosing, being my own medicine man! Stoned is my normal and you would never really know. I don't enjoy stereotypes and don't even smell like it because I don't burn it! I like being a little different, I call it a cool weirdo, you might call it something else.