I'm well aware of the irony of posting on Christmas but to those in a similar situation where it feels more like roommates then married I'm sure you will understand.

I'm missing that spark we all love and I'm sure you're missing it too. It means something a little bit different to all of us but it does the same thing. It makes our hearts race and a smile appear on our face when we see a new message.

I’m looking for my confidante to whisper my darkest thoughts. I want to be able to send flirty messages, trade awful jokes, and have conversations learning about each other as we grow just a little bit closer.

I have a busy career but I can chat during the workday as well as at home and on the weeknds. It's rare I can't talk for atleast a little bit everyday. And I will always let you know if I am going to be AWOL for a moment.

I prefer to use Telegram once we decide to move on from reddit but I'm open to whatever helps you maintain OPSEC.

Once we’re both comfortable I'd like to take the conversation offline and meet in person.

My job is also physically demanding and I workout frequently, so I’m good shape. I'm 5'11", white (Portuguese), muscular, dark brown hair, brown eyes with glasses.

My hobbies include watching movies (comedy/action/sci-fi), driving my Camaro, and tinkering with electronics. I also love to travel, meet new people and experience new cultures.

A non encompassing list of what I am seeking.

Open to IRL. Within a few hours of Chicago or travel here semi-frequently. 21-50 (not really hard on age). Chat atleast daily and can have a normal conversation not just one word replies to endless questions.

If you've made it this far great! Feel free to send me a chat or message about why drivers in America are so terrible. I'm sure you have a recent story.

We all want the same thing in the end. Someone who removes the need for us to keep posting. Will that be you?

• R