After starting a few conversations with some really lovely women from this subreddit, I've realized that I don't need or want an involved emotional affair. I love my wife, and I should just spend more time with her.

The sex, however... We've had sex twice in the past few months, which is a lot for us; same old story. I've tried having partners outside of my marriage in real life, but frankly I think it's not for me. It takes a lot of time, and I would rather just spend that time with my family.

But I still get the itch. And I've had some really excellent times chatting with women who are in a similar situation to me. It's just more fun to get off together instead of getting off by myself.

So I won't pretend that I want to chat extensively about everything in life. I do want to chat about everything in life, but not extensively.

The main thing I want is passion. I want you to drive me crazy, and I want to make you hungry for me. Even though we're busy with our real lives, let's take a few seconds to tease each other throughout the day. By the time we find a moment to get together, the tension should be deliciously high. And then we can get back to our real lives.

As for what I'm looking for, the main thing is someone in a similar situation. It's hard to know whether you'll have a vibe with someone before you actually have a conversation, but you should at least be able to have a conversation. I will say that the successful connections I've made have all started with sexual attraction and then moved to good conversation, and not the other way around. So let's make sure the spark is there before we start talking about economic policy. Flirt with me, baby.