I need to find a certain counterpart to myself.

Let's start with a couple definitions. I am a creature of words and if you are the woman I'm looking for, I imagine you are too. Submission doesn't mean she's empty of desires and wishes and fantasies and waiting for a man to imprint his upon her. It doesn't mean that she has no limits and will do absolutely everything asked of her. It doesn't mean she's the kinkiest woman to ever walk the earth. What it does mean is that she finds pleasure in being challenged, in being told what to do, and in being rewarded.

Dominant doesn't mean that I'm only interested in my own gratification. It doesn't mean I'm careless of your needs and desire. It doesn't mean I am full of masculine bravado and unable to be vulnerable. What it does mean is that I take pleasure in using rules and structure as part of our dynamic, in challenging you, and in rewarding you.

The affair I seek is both intellectual and physical. I want to beguile your mind, I want to seduce your body, but I don't want to treat one as simply the prelude to the other. There will be times for being slow, gentle and sensual, times for being kinky and adventurous, times for being raw and passionate. I am, more than anything, looking for something ongoing, and someone who sees value in taking our time. Trust is important. Everything takes time, but that investment of time will, I promise you, be rewarded.

To the usual laundry list of requirements, I'm not deeply concerned about age, but I'm in my mid-40s and probably connect best with someone within a decade or so on either side of that. I won't say that physical attraction is unimportant to me, but what really matters is body positivity. If you love your body, I will too. If you're not there yet but want to, I'd love to help you get there. I'm 6'0, average build, a bit of a dad bod, bald and bearded, but overall fit and active. I'm geeky, bookish, socially and politically liberal, artistic, nature-loving and creative. I list these things because if you're the sort of sapiosexual I seek, these sorts of connections matter. While what I describe is a sexual affair, I do value someone who I can connect with as a friend as well.

So, let me ask a first step of you, if you think you're the woman I seek: make sure that your first message to me shows a degree of effort similar to what I have put into crafting this message for you.

If this message is still up, I'm still looking, regardless of how much time has passed.