Does anyone else struggle with reconciling their narcissistic parents’ extremely loving and genuine actions with their cruelty? I can think of so many instances in which my mother looked after me in ways that my peers have never experienced from their parents. she’s gone to lengths to protect me that other kids don’t seem to have had, spent crazy sums of money to give me memorable experiences, sacrificed things and hurt herself to make me happy… at the same time, the abuse that she has enacted on me is so extreme and contrasting that i have trouble understanding that this is all the same person. i don’t recall seeing posts here where people discuss kindness from nParents that wasn’t transactional, and how they handle processing that alongside the abuse. Thank you 🙏🏾