My partner is pre-everything medical, and socially mostly in the closet. I've known she's trans for almost a year now.

I've really enjoyed redefining our sexual relationship, we have sex at the same frequency (more or less) as we did before she told me. But I'd say the quality has really improved. I can make her cum multiple times in one day (never could before), we have better communication and things are just more fun and exciting. Everything apart from the frequency has changed substantially and I really love it.

I do struggle, however, with reconciling my guilt and desire for PIV (we only do it occasionally when we are both in the mood for it), and wanting to induce gender euphoria in her every time we make love. I always want to make her feel like a goddess and give her as sapphic an experience as possible, which doesn't always work out.

How about yourselves? It feels like no one ever talks about the sexual side of things with having a trans partner. For me it's been one of the most significant parts of the whole process since she's only really 'out' around me.