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So after a very, very long drought my partner and I engaged in some sexual activity the other day. No penetration, no oral, no fingering, just through the use of a vibrator. It was pretty decent and Iām just happy that weāre trying to work on our sex life.
Weāve been talking about things we want to try and one of the ones sheās really interested in is me being more dominant with her. Now, I really really wish this wasnāt the case but I am 100% a sub. Iāve enjoyed BDSM in my relationships but Iāve always been the sub - regardless of whether my partner was a man or a woman. Iāve tried to be more dominant a handful of times but itās really just not my thing and it actively turns me off. I realize this is a pretty rigid standard. She wants me to use handcuffs on her and be a bit āroughā with her. I told her Iām willing to try but just the thought is enough to put me out of any sexy mood.
Sheās okay being the dominant one here and there but now that sheās transitioning she wants a āgive and takeā where we each take turns being the sub. Sheās perfectly within her rights to want this and it makes sense since she says sheās a switch now.
I genuinely want to try. I really donāt want to be so rigid in what I like. But for the life of me I donāt know how to change it. Any tips?
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