I mostly follow this sub because I'm transgender, and it's always nice to see cis partners of trans people desperately wanting to be good partners, and trying to figure out their own feelings without putting them on their partners. It delights me.

I never thought I would use it, because well... I'm trans! And my partner being trans, in my head, would never bother me.

I met my boyfriend almost a year ago online, and like... could tell they were trans. (Clearing this up now: My boyfriend is AMAB and still uses he/him around most people, lets me call them my boyfriend, etc. But they are not a trans man). Like, I mean, you can always tell, tbh. I figured he was nonbinary, maaaybe trans fem leaning, but definitely not cis. We bonded over this and it became a point of connection for us.
Lately, it's just been coming up a lot for them. I support them, of course, so much!

The issue is that, personally speaking, I consider myself gay.

I'm nonbinary and don't identify as a man, but my sexuality is... men, and enbies who consider themselves partially men, and even nonaligned enbies if I can call them my boyfriend. It's just how I am.

Previously during conversations, I've told them: as long as part of you identifies as a man, and you can be my boyfriend, then there's no problem.

But last week we had a big emotional day that ended with them crying a lot and having big gender feels. Something that came up was the fact they aren't really... sure at all what their gender is and they feel there's a semi-decent possibility they're a trans woman, and that they think they might want breasts and HRT someday.

I'm obviously staying as supportive as possible to them, but I'm gradually getting more and more freaked out. I'm not attracted to women! And I love and cherish and adore them so much, and the idea of them being a person I'm not attracted to terrifies me and makes me wanna cry and encourage them less (which I won't) and it sucks.

I know this is a thing people go through with trans partners, I just... felt I would not have this issue, because I could understand the other person deeply. But now I'm just panicking over the possible loss of a boyfriend - because I wouldn't want a girlfriend. (At least I don't think so)