I've always thought of myself as straight. I'm attracted to female bodies, not male bodies at all.

However I'm not really attracted to femininity. In fact it's quite a turn off for me. The women I've been most compatible with emotionally have been very butch lesbians, with whom I've enjoyed several emotional intimate but non romantical or physical relationships

I met my partner, very nonbinary, not feminine at all, but "straight". They seemed perfect in so many ways. I love the person they are.

But there's a catch. They like having a vagina, but they've told me they want a dick, too, and told me about some of that's nonbinary folks have surgically managed to have dicks created.

I told them in no uncertain terms that this would be a deal breaking turn off for me. I know this really disappointed them.

I'm struggling to navigate this. Thoughts? I want to be supportive but I also know where my own limits are in terms of sexual attraction.