So here is the deal, I recently broke of Kingdom of Rhodoks to form my own faction.
I have a weekle income varying between 1k-3k.
I currently own Shariz, Jelbelgi castle, Erchellon castle and Grundwalder castle with my faction.
I have 3 lords and Matheld as my vassals.
Kingdom of Rhodoks, being the dicks they are in every game I play, constantly besiege Erchellon castle with 5-10 counts of 50-100 men each, the king even has 250 men.
They take the castle, I retake it immediatly, but he doesn't want to make peace at all.
I am sitting at 53 RtR, 1.2k Renown iirc. Yet no lord has recognized me as a ruler, even sarranid who is at war with rhodoks. Max party size is 115-ish, currently sitting at 90 mid tier units (well at least 20 are recuites), since m army got wiped recently. To make matters worse, kerghit just declared war on me. What would be the best course of action atm?