I am not sure how I have put up with my MIL for the last 23 years but I can’t stand her anymore to the point that I am so close to getting in a verbal argument and telling her to stay away from us. I haven’t done it already because I don’t want to hurt my wife emotionally. This woman ruins everything good. She is selfish, manipulative, lies non stop and always has to be center of attention.

When my wife and I started dating at 18, her mom was the same way she still is but I tolerated it because she was hot! Nowadays not so much. To be honest my mil, was always extremely pleasant with me until this past year. Even though I have avoided her for the last 15 years as much as possible.

My wife’s father committed suicide when she was 13. He was an alcoholic and had served in Vietnam. I am sure that he committed suicide for multiple reasons including my mil being a wack.

Mil has no family photos of her kids or grandkids in her house and never has. But she has plenty of expensive meaningless artwork. She got remarried about 4 years ago to a guy she’s been dating since 25 years ago. He’s a lot older than her.

MIL calls my wife so many times every day (literally at any time, day or night) just to start a fight with her or to try to make us feel sorry for her and makes my wife feel bad about herself. Including her being a bad daughter and a poor mother.

She use to watch our kids for us one day a week until she would repeatedly cancel on us at the last minute because she had a headache or something else ridiculous. Then mil had back surgery, didn’t do therapy like she was supposed to and has been on pain pills for the past 8 years. Then she gets rx for physc meds to deal with her shitty life that she created for herself. Then she decides that she needs to keep a loaded pistol near her all the time so she can protect herself. WTF!!

Now she is mad at me because I will not let my kids over her house unless my wife or myself are there. My kids are 13 and 8, they know how to safely handle firearms. I am not worried about them touching the pistol I am worried about mil handling it. I don’t think she has ever even shot a gun before.

My wife wants a loving and caring mother so bad in her life but she is never going to get it from her mother. My mother loves her like a daughter, but my mom is not the clingy type that wants hugs and all that crapt all the time. Wifey is that kind of mother and wants that. I try to just listen to my wife when she talks about mil but sometimes I just can’t be quiet about how I feel. I think my wife needs to see a counselor about her mother and father but she will not go to one. Literally , mil makes her feel terrible about herself all the time. Sometimes she is down about it for days. Example the other night mil and wife argued on the phone and later that night when my wife and I were being intimate with each other, I could tell that she wasn’t in the moment with me. So I stopped and asked her what was the matter and she told me about her mother calling her earlier that day. Then guess who called her, MIL after 11pm. Only to argue more.