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Hi, first time poster here so forgive me if my format is a lil all over the place.
For context, about 2-3 months ago I broke up with my first relationship; I won't go into too much detail but I'll summarise with by the end of it we were arguing basically every day and realised the relationship was causing more harm then good to both our mental health and mutually agreed to break up.
I think it's also important to note that I'm a very anxious lad (if it won't be obvious by the end of this post)ðŸ˜
Since the breakup I've been really enjoying the single life alot; I've enjoyed the freedom and been less stressed overall, even randomly stumbling on an occasional NSFW chat (bumped into group of people from America, I'm from the UK, whilst playing some games who on occasion flirt with eachother and send "stuff" to eachother, no commitments just casual flirting, surprisingly supportive and wholesome) and since then it's been great! My confidence has really boosted and it's been great becoming mates with them
About 3 weeks ago I decided to download some dating apps, not for anything serious just casual, and I matched with this woman 22F, right away we hit it off and went on a date the next day, we had a great connection and I stayed the night at hers and had an incredible night; we watched arcane, made out, had incredible intimacy and had the best sleep I've had in ages.
Since then we've been on another date and been talking almost non stop for 2 weeks and started saying saying we miss eachother and planning more dates (except last week where she went distant but things are picking back up). The issue I have is I know I'm already getting attached after two weeks; I'm starting to feel bad going on dating sites and interacting with that group chat (flirting, sending etc). I haven't been able to get her out of my mind since and just want to be with her all the time.
Part of me is saying "it's only been two weeks, you barely know eachother and chances are she's doing the same and talking to others. Just keep doing what you doing and enjoy what you have now and see where it goes" But another part is saying "what if she isn't? How would she feel about this?" which is odd for me to think cause I honestly wouldn't mind if she was doing what im doing at this stage.
So the question I wanted to ask is, what would you do in my situation? Would you consider this simply overthinking and just relax and enjoy what i have now and then rethink this at a later time when weve gotten to know eachother? Or cut the chat completely (or atleast the NSFW part), I don't want to scare her off jumping in so quickly but at the same time don't want to lose her either over something that I can easily drop (the group chat is very supportive and will understand, we all good mates)
Thank you for reading this, apologies for the length and if this isn't the right place to post; just need some advice
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