I've been dating an amazing girl who has helped me through some really tough times, and I genuinely care about her. She’s supportive, kind, and smart. However, there's a significant issue that's been causing me a lot of internal conflict: she doesn't work and has no intention of pursuing a career or further education.

She had several opportunities to go to university but chose not to which could be down to mental health issues.

Meanwhile, I have two master’s degrees and a stable job.

This difference in our ambitions has been a source of stress. I mentioned her to my family and they jokingly asked me to introduce her to them at some point. When I told her about this she started acting weird.

She’s often insecure about her looks and the fact that she isn’t working or as educated, and I’m unsure how to support her without making her feel worse.I’ve always envisioned being with someone who is self-sufficient and career-driven, and this situation has put me in a moral dilemma. On one hand, I see so much potential in her and believe she could achieve a lot if she chose to pursue something.

On the other hand, I’m struggling with the fact that she isn’t motivated in the same way I am.I really care about her and want to be supportive, but I’m not sure how to reconcile my own expectations with the reality of our relationship. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated.

Her message from today that I don't know how to reply to. I have been with her for 2 years now.

" It may seem insignificant to you, but I am tiered of the same conversations about the house and I know you are trying but what is the point in me telling you about how I don’t feel good enough or bringing back the conversation about me feeling like you are ashamed of me because the things you said long back about me not having a job terrifies me when you talk about meeting your Aunt or whoever? Because what the fuck will ai say to them, Im not educated enough, I don’t have a job, I don’t have any ambition, I am not pretty, I have none of the qualities anyone would ever want.

But for whatever reason you like me but I ask you to wait to watch something with me and you don’t even care that I wanted to watch it with you.

And now you will go back to ignoring me again.

And it’s fine.

Because all anyone ever wants is what I can do for them."