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Does this girl like me or not?
My moral dilemma is if she likes me and if I should pursue it because we are such good friends or if I should just go for it incase she likes me.
I think my friend likes me but I don’t know, but I also have a small crush on her. I (19m) can’t tell if my friend (21f) likes me and is flirting with me or if I am just being dumb
So this has all happened within the past few weeks. A girl Im friends with at college is a senior, and I will be a sophomore. I jokingly said that she should help me practice kissing for next semester and she said that if I didn’t kiss at all when I graduated she would kiss me. I then jokingly said that I gotta wait three years and then she said that she’ll do it at her graduation instead which is next year. She is 100% serious. What does this mean? Does she like me? Think Im attractive? Or just wants to do something nice for me because she’s a really good friend? I sorta like her and find her pretty attractive but I already like another girl who just got in a relationship. She has told me she likes another guy but she hasn’t really elaborated much past that. However she knows the guy she likes doesn’t like her back. She wanted to FT me that same night to fall asleep because she’s wasn’t feeling well and having birthday depression because she doesn’t like her birthday. What does this add to the story already talked about?
Then cut to the day after where she went swimming and when she told me I jokingly said to not send swimsuit photos and she then later sent a mirror photo of her smiling, however she was in a tank top and jean shorts and not her swimsuit. Then a couple hours later she sent me another mirror photo in said tank top and jean shorts showing me her sunburn, she was making a sorta laughing smirking face with puffed out cheeks. However she sent a photo to a group chat we are both in but it was a different photo of her. It was definitely taken back to back with each other and the gc photo was more a goofy face/expression. Could that mean anything?
Then fast forward to that night where she asked me if she could send me a photo of her “looking good” (her words). I ofc say yes and she sends another mirror photo in a black tank top and black nike pro shorts, while having a flirty smirk on her face. She said she needed approval before she sent the photo to her mom and when I asked why she need approval to send a picture to her own mother, she responded with she’s scared of sending photos to her mom which I asked why and she replied with “Idk why I’m weird ok.” She then told me that she used to have someone to approve her photos but doesn’t anymore and that she can be herself around me, I told her she can always come to me for approval and she said she appreciated it. Was that photo meant for me or actually for her mom? Is she genuinely just wanting my opinion on photos of her? Or is there something else Im not seeing? Then another day she was out boating and swimming again and she sent me a picture captioned “I hope I stay this tan” and its just a photo of her sitting down and her camera is just showing off her thighs and legs. Is there anything in that or am I just being crazy?
Cut to tonight where we were talking and I sent a goofy photo of myself that was a really bad photo of me and she hearted it. Then she sent me photos of where she was on vacation too. I said that I am moving there tomorrow jokingly because of how beautiful it looks and she said “lets share an apartment” to which I responded with “Dw I’ll get a single bedroom one” to which she said “Smash.” Then she said she was going to bed to which I said “without me cmon” (thats how we joke, we aren’t cringe or weird trust me) and she said “No you’re supposed to join stupid” and then I jokingly said again “I’ll come as fast as I can, Then we can go to sleep.” (Again possibly cringey but its our humor) and she said “Sounds good” and then I said “I’ll be big spoon so you aint cold” and she responded with “Bet” and then we said goodnight and I love you to each other (we say love you all the time). What does all of this mean?
Update: So its been a bit since my original post. We have both been super busy and haven’t been able to talk much. But some things have happened.
•First thing is she came back from her vacation and she went to a restaurant close by my house. I showed her how close it was to my house and she said she was gonna come over but said she was joking because she wanted too but she was having dinner with her dad so she couldn’t.
•A day or two later late at night we were texting and she randomly said “Dude I’m about to fall in love with myself” and said a photo of her smiling, turning to the side, and with her chin in the palm of her hand. So basically went for a cute photo look.
•We then didn’t talk for awhile due to her being super busy with summer classes and some depression hitting her. But when she finally texted me she said that missed me and wished me good luck on my show. I responded by sending her a video of me just talking to her and saying how Im sorry she’s dealing with so much. She responded 2 or 3 days later and thanked me for doing that and being such an amazing friend.
•Over the next week or so not much happened except that she hearted 2 different photos I sent her that were just me being goofy or making a joke.
•Last Friday I asked her if we could call so I don’t fall asleep on the way home from my show because I had a 19-20 hour day at that point and was tired. She said if she was still up she would. I called her and she didn’t pick up, I sent her a text just incase she missed the call and she then called me immediately after. We just talked and caught up. She kept making funny faces at me that seemed flirty but also could have just been her joking around. She also one time made a smirking face and zoomed in on her face and kept racing her eyebrows up and down. Later on in the call I tried to bring up how I started liking another girl (her) but don’t know what to do. I said that I am good friends with this girl, we seem to flirt a lot, talk a lot. However, I don’t know if I should go for it because I don’t wanna risk the friendship. I did this in hopes of her maybe catching on that its her or that she would give advice on what she would want a guy to do if she was in the same situation. She didn’t really say anything except that my situation is tough and she didn’t know what I should do. I then told her I had my first kiss at work on accident. So I then asked her about the graduation kiss, she was hesitant to answer and I kept asking her why and she said that it was just funny. She shortly then went to bed and we called it a night but both said we love each other and that we miss each other. However I have noticed I am always the one to start the “I love you” recently but I do know she is one of those people who sometimes finds it hard to outwardly show deep emotion if that makes sense.
What does all of this add to what I already said? Whenever I think about it I think she doesn’t like me but then when I rethink it again I I think she does like me.
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