Hi! I've been lurking around a few days, I'm having a bit of trouble visualizing my current relationship with my boyfriend. We are monogamous and because I'm going on a trip with two friends, that are men, we've been checking around our agreements. My boyfriend's feeling hurt because he doesn't tolerate well interaction between men and women, even to the point where he used to hide said interactions from me when he went out. I asked why because I don't have any problem with that and he said he feels uneasy about them. Like he sees everything around those charged with sexual energy (not his words, but what he implies) and doesn't want to make me uncomfortable, because he does feel that way whenever I interact "alone" with a guy. (Even if we are out with a group of friends). So I asked if this was a rule or a limit and he's very insistent on "not conditioning" my behavior, yet he kind of needs me to choose interactions where at least one female is present so he's okay. Yet... When I play online with random guys on discord it's not that big of a deal you know? I'm having trouble visualizing this 'rule' or 'limit' and how it affects my decision making, because I don't particularly like it. I trust him and our monogamous agreement that no sex and no romantic interaction will ensue outside the relationship, but I don't expect him to control every interaction with females over that, what if a girl comes and flirts? I know he'll politely say no. He knows I would too, but it's clearly not enough for him :( I'm at a loss, I kind of prefer non monogamous agreements so it's hard for me to visualize a life where I avoid men, it's funny because I'm bisexual and he doesn't give a shit about whatever sexual energy between girls, probably because he is heterosexual right? What should I do? I mean, I want insight on maybe working it out. My friends say they don't think we suit each other in the long run anymore, and I'm feeling like throwing away 4 years of relationship and support isn't on the table yet... Maybe I can push it through and feel comfortable, but how?