21M who is a white-middle eastern mix and my friend (31M who is white) for some context. We are both gay and go out to the bar every weekend. I have become somewhat close enough for me to tell him about my insecurities. Ever since I have done this I notice so many things that make me cringe about him and almost piss me off. Let me give a few examples. When I have told him I sometimes get upset when people assume I am only middle eastern and that I wish I was less ethnic looking he goes on about how sad he feels and tells me that he wishes he was a person of color and I should embrace being different. This isn't the problem though. This is just cringy advice from someone who doesn't understand mixed-race people but acts as they care more than they do. I have also told him "why do you get so upset about this if this is how I feel?" he then says "because I have so many friends of color that I help and am an ally and advocate". (he says this a lot) My other friend (41M who is a 3rd generation Mexican and also gay) told me he is a big white savior and I see this more and more I hang out with him. He always talks about he loves people of color and how he fights for them. He always talks about BLM (which I fully support myself). He just brings it up almost every time we hang out as a white boy which seems to not make sense because we all agree on this and he seems to need to explain this to me every fucking time and make himself seem like he is the "woke" white guy. I remember this on te was this black girl sitting by herself at the bar and he came up to her and I thought this was really nice of him (not because she is black) but because she was sitting by herself all dressed up. We all talked to her and found out she was having a fight with her girlfriend. I felt so happy he did this because it made her night. I then noticed when he was drunk that he started trying to act like a stereotypical black girl and it made me cringe. This made me realize how fake he is truthful.