I am having a difficult time lately with the guilt of resting & leaving things unattended to. Trying to close my eyes while it's quiet, I can hear the dripping water from faucet in the kitchen as it lands on the dishes I should be cleaning. The stress pile waiting on the other side of the migraine mountain. I get overwhelmed as soon as the migraines subside... bombarded with piles of dishes & laundry. For a little background... I am 34 year old full time stay at home mom with 3 school aged children & live in a small house with my fiancé, & thd father of our kiddos. My fiancé works a very stressful & tiring job, nearly 60 hours a week... sometimes his work doesn't end when he gets home & he sometimes has to work on his equipment when he returns home for the day or work on his off time. He provides us a very comfortable life with hardly any bills or debt. He is also a very hands on father when he is home & cooks every dinner almost every night. He gets them ready for bed alongside me, brushing their teeth & tucking them into bed. As such a wonderful father & an amazing provider, I never expect him to have to lift a finger when it comes to house cleaning, laundry or dishes, as I previously stated, I am a stay home mom & we live a very simple life. My fiancé is very understanding & never complains about any mess or if he doesn't have clean socks. We have been together since our early 20's, nearly 15 years & he knows my headache & migraine history. He is especially mindful around my menstrual cycle as that's when the migraines are the worst. I love him so much for that. The problem is myself... & the expectations I have for myself & our home... I ultimately am my own worst enemy when it comes to giving myself some grace. I know I need to take care of myself but how can I learn to not be so stressed & overwhelmed after the migraines are gone?