I think my wife is having a midlife crisis at 34 and told me she wants a divorce. She wants to find herself, she is worried who she will be after the kids grow up since she is a SAHM, flirting with her online friends etc. Divorce talk started with a fight about sharing duties. I had been working on an addition to our house all day long and came inside to a mess, no food or even offer all day. She had played video games with her friends or played on her phone most of the day. It was the third weekend like this and I finally got frustrated enough to say something. I don't feel like I did enough wrong to justify a divorce. She says she doesn't want to be stuck here and will regret not making a change if it is like this in three years. This was just over a week ago and I went from feeling blindsided, to feeling like I should have seen this coming and accepting it, ending with me feeling like I should support her through this and see if she changes her mind. I know that seems like a rollercoaster for a week but I have gone through this with her before. Three years ago I was an alcoholic and we seperated for 4 months with the intention of divorce. I made her a promise I would never drink again or treat her like I had before and I actually kept it this time and have for years now. We both agree we have to finish the addition before we can seperate because our house is really the only thing that can give us enough money to have a good start on our own. So I have time and things are peaceful at the moment. I realized I need to support her streaming and making time with her friends while not working myself to death so I told her I would take over dinner and kids a few nights a week so she can have some time set aside for herself. Has anybody gone through something like this? Am I hurting myself trying to hold onto hope that this a MLC and it is something she will change her mind about? I hate the idea of giving up 13 years of mostly good marraige because of something I think we can and already have compromised on.