I'm 50, 6'2" tall, 350 (major dadbod), have my own place, car, and a decent job. I'm recently divorced and we share custody of 3 daughters.

My ex treated me like a roommate the past 3 years or so, very little to no affection, even less sex. She did some shitty things to me the last year and a half of the marriage and I'm trying to heal, learn how to be on my own.

Some basic info about me. I work in IT, but also work part-time as a musician. If anyone I personally know reads this, they'll figure out who I am pretty quickly. Doesn't matter to me though. I just want to live my life, put the pieces back together, and try to move forward. It's been a difficult process so far.

Not looking for anything deeply emotionally involved at the moment. Doesn't make sense that would happen immediately or overnight. It would be nice to just have someone physically in my presence to talk to, cuddle, hold hands, maybe even kiss if the chemistry is there. Or just check in on me from time to time. I make that effort for other people that I'm fond of but find I don't get it in return a lot. Not to sound negative, but if you choose to not make that effort, I stop trying too.

I tend to be attracted to women younger than I am, but not TOO young. Late 20s and up. Superficially, I'm also attracted to black women with a little extra on their frame, but I have no real preference as I prefer to get to know a person nor am I at all interested in random encounters.

I don't mean to sound like I'm a finicky or difficult person. I'm really not, but I would prefer to meet someone who has their life together, their own place, car, etc. Meeting someone from the Detroit area would be best. I have had this tendency to illicit responses from people who are over 2 hours away. I don't have time to make trips like that, nor do I want to have someone try to squeeze me into their schedule. It never really works, and communication always falls by the wayside in those instances.

Don't be afraid to PM me. And I might be a little cautious and skeptical. I've tried my hand at OLD and other online methods of looking for something specific and have been met with a LOT of less than genuine responses. I usually get a lot of scam/looking for money responses which is a major turnoff and causes me frustration due to how often it happens.

I want someone to want to be with me for me, and I seem to be losing hope more and more on that each day. I'm a kind gentle soul, easy-going, easy to get to know, affectionate, well-spoken, intelligent, safe and sane. I know I'm not the physical ideal that some look for, but I'm a good person, I love my kids, and I have a lot to offer.