I've been in a LTR for 5 years. I take care of all of our kids, I'm the only one that's worked the last 4 years, I handle all the bills, insurance, cars, house repair, etc. When I get home from work I'm expected to take over all housework/childcare. I'm tired. Any spare time I have I spend on side businesses so I can pay for our kids to go to a better school district. It's never enough, I'm never thanked and constantly reminded that I don't do "enough". Everyone can see that she doesn't do anything to help me but I'm pushed to stay because it would put her kids in a tough spot if I left. I'm depressed, if I try to take time for myself to exercise or spend time with friends I'm chastised. The sex has gone stale, it's a choice of rotation between two positions that gets her off the fastest - you know the ones where I do all the work and she lays there. She racks up credit cards with no concern on how it's paid (because I always do it). It's just been one sided for far too long.

I'm leaving as soon as I set aside enough money for a few months so she can have a few months rent and time to look for work.

I'm sorry about the whining on here, I know it's a relationship reddit. I'm not necessarily looking for someone right now but I'd even love to hear stories about how you guys did find someone. I feel like I've gotten to old to find someone, and I'd talk to my friends about this but they've got so much going on too. I guess this is a can someone please restore my faith in dating, because this isn't a "woe is me, I hate _____ gender". I'm genuinely questioning if dating can be a benefit instead of a detriment. Honestly even some pleasant conversation would be great to take my mind off of it.