Hi friends!

I have been doing a lot of reparenting work and trying to heal some of my childhood wounds. Future self journalling has been really insightful and I’ve made a lot of progress. My focus at the moment is my anxiety around how people react to me eg. Obsessing over how mad my boss is gonna be if I call in sick, worrying about how my partner will take me bringing up this issue, etc. I want to work on accepting that I can not control other people’s emotional reactions and that how people react is often more about them than me. At the same time however I want to be a more considerate person which means taking into account how you affect other people. How do you mediate these two things? How can I not get so affected by other people’s feelings (which leads to anxiety, people pleasing and compulsive reassurance seeking) while still being mindful of my impact on others?