Hey there! Not sure where else to turn other then therapy so I thought I would give this a quick shot. I have always struggled super heavy with ADHD (un diagnosed) but I don't think it's ever really affected me until recently in a negative way. I've always struggled with school and those types of things, but in my sales career it's always seemed like more of a positive thing then a negative. Recently I got divorced after being together since we were 16 after 8 years. She struggles super hard with depression and even though I would say she directly caused our breakup, she still wants to be friends. For a little background I was raised in a heavily religious household and my dad was a pastor. I'm not sure I believe in that now, but because did that along with my ADHD, it's really been a struggle for me to set boundaries and start to move on. It's been 6 months, but the breakup was coming for 2 years and I thought I was past the hard part, but it seems like I can't get out of my head and like I'm right back where I started. I crave human contact and feel that I am ready to move on and start looking for something new, but all I can think about is how that's going to affect her and that we can't really be friends if I am in a new relationship, but I am so worried that if I start to push for that is what if something happens to her? What if she does something stupid and dies when my friendship that she has said she wants/needs is the only thing preventing that. She has had issues with self harm on and off throughout our relationship and I have tried so hard to get her to seek help, but even though she has a few times (therapy but only went to a few appointments, said she diddnt like it and now uses the excuse that she can't afford it, and she was on antidepressants for about 8 months before stoping cold turkey about a year ago) nothing has helped/stuck with her and she continues to struggle with those thoughts and has told me about this. Obviously that's one of many possible sinarios and she could be fine, but I cant imagine the regret and hurt that that would cause me if that's what played out. I feel trapped. That leads me to why I am posting, I feel that most of the overthinking is due to my ADHD and I was curious if other peoples experiences and if medication/counseling helped them through this and what difference it actually made. I feel that I need help at this point as it's severely affecting my drive in life and work some days and I am just tired of this cycle. I feel like I'm broken but I'm doing it to myself because I am so worried about her getting hurt even though she is the one that called it with me and actually blamed her depression. Thoughts?