Hey!

I've had some major life changes over the past 6 months. The only guy friend I've ever had that seem to understand me went off to prison for a year in October. (DUI; dumb decisions on his part) Then in December, my girlfriend of 4 years left me.

I have a bunch of acquaintances, but I feel like most of them don't really understand who I am, what my mental state is, and they don't really help much if that makes sense?

For example, the person I'm closest to right now doesn't seem to understand that my best friend going to prison is a big deal for me. Whenever I've told him that I'm lonely, his solution is always " let's go to the bar and pick up women". That's so not my vibe, and I have 6 and 1/2 years off of alcohol/drugs, so going to the bar isn't that appealing either.

I'm 27, it seems like most of the people I know have whole established friend groups already, and I feel kind of left behind if I'm being honest. How does one find these groups? I see everyone else with a bunch of close friends, and as much as I hate saying it, I yearn for it.

I'm mostly just worried that I'm super close to starting a downward spiral of the mindset "why maintain the good parts of my life, what's the point?" If that makes sense.

Thanks in advance. :)