Hey everyone,

I’m a 30M4F from SE, happily married and living what many would call a great life. I deeply love my wife, and we have an amazing relationship in most areas. However, when it comes to our physical relationship, things are… difficult.

She’s not very active or interested in intimacy, despite me sharing how much this part of our connection matters to me. I’ve tried talking to her, expressing my feelings and needs, but nothing has really changed.

As a result, I find myself with a lot of pent-up energy, thinking about sex more than I’d like, and turning to masturbation far too often. It’s starting to feel like this is something I can’t ignore anymore.

But I’m starting to think about meeting someone secretly who can help me fulfill these desires. I don’t know if that’s the right move, but I’m feeling stuck and unsure of what to do.

Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.