Hi! Trans person here!

If I used the men's bathroom (I transitioned from male to female), that would immediately out me, and say "Hey! I'm required by law to be in here even though I've had sex reassignment surgery! Also, I'm the most hated minority in America right now, so pretty please, don't assault or r*pe me, because if you do, nobody will ever care, because I'm trans!"

My equality with cis women doesn't take away from their femininity, it is not a zero sum game.

I'm so glad I'm not your type! It makes me so glad to hear that my existence makes you in particular uncomfortable.

Gotta admit, cis men are probably the last people I would take any advice from :)

I have actual cases of this happening!

A trans dude (who transitioned from female to male) called the spot he was going to ahead of time to ask which bathroom to use, they said the women's. So he used the women's and some other dude followed him in there, didn't believe him when he said he was told to be there, assaulted him, and then when the police arrived, they arrested the trans dude.

I also look like a hot cisgender woman, I've been stealth (where me being trans is revealed on a need to know basis only) for almost 10 years and haven't been misgendered in that entire period.

Oh and my legal documentation says female and my birth certificate says female with no record of having ever been male.

So yeah, nah I'm gonna use the women's room

Yeah, I'm not gonna do that. That's asking to be assaulted. Especially after sex reassignment surgery.

Sexuality among trans people is split roughly in thirds between gay, bi, and straight. You're more likely to find a trans woman who is into women than not into women.

I transitioned as a kid. It was transition or die. My parents wouldn't let me so I bought my hormones illegally off the internet. My existence is not a fad. I did what I had to do to survive