Is it harder for people who are F to apologise without giving an "explanation"?

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ENTJ Dad here. Noticed this in my wife (ESFJ) and eldest son (ENFP).

On the very rare occasions that they mess up or do something wrong or hurtful etc they seem to have a strange way of apologising.

I've noticed that they always give an "explanation" or "justification" for their behaviour. I'm really sorry for what I did but I only reacted that way because YOU did xyz.

If they just paused after saying sorry, 99 times out of a 100 - it would give the other person space to say "Don't worry about it. It's no big deal. I'm sorry for what I did to provoke the situation".

But they feel the need to "explain" or "justify" their behaviour which in my mind diminishes their apology and can come across as blaming the other person / absolving themselves of responsibility.

Anyone else see this?

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