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What to do about a masseuse who violated me.
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Violated is the wrong word, but I don't know the right word for what he did. The specifics:

I went to see him in Denver because he has a huge following and I was considering bringing him in on retreats at my retreat center in Costa Rica. My first (only) time seeing him, about 30min in, he folded me over in a way that I literally felt like my back was going to break, like a wrestling pin and held me there with a lot of force. I could not breathe or move and I struggled to get the word "Stop" out. He did not stop and I increased the intensity of the word three times, "stop, Stop, STOP!!" and he still did not stop. The way I was bent, I could not move to stop it and felt if I did, I'd literally break something.

When he finally allowed me out of this painful pin, I wanted to smash his head in, I was so angry and triggered. I just asked him to let me rest and not touch me for a while. He said some bullshit about it being good for me or my resistance being the problem, I barely remember.

I don't want the negative energy of getting into anything with him, but it's been almost a year and I can't stop thinking about it and I get so triggered when I see his social media promos.

My rational brain says I should warn others, but in my body I can feel it's more just about me being triggered and angry than about my desire to protect others. Advice?

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