Personally I wouldn't, does that make me an asshole?

I want to be the primary breadwinner of my family as I link my masculinity with my ability to provide.

I think it will feel nice to financially provide and do things for my wife.

And if she is the Primary Breawinner then how will I enjoy the life of a breadwinner? of being a provider? of being a man?

Is this toxic masculinity? Patriarchal Mindset?Insecurity?

Its like I love eating Dosa and Idli both are nice But I will still prefer eating Dosa over Idli. Because I love Dosa more.

So in that Same way I will prefer to be the primary breadwinner, am I toxic and insecure manchild now?

I by no means want to dominate or control my partner who will earn less, (won't be primary breadwinner) All I wish is to love her and provide her and pamper her in this way, this is like my love language that's how I want to express my love.

I want to be Traditionally Masculine Man in the relationship. (No hate for the women earning more or men earning less)

Also I think if women can have the preference of having a high earning man then why can't I have the preference of being the high earning man?

This has been bugging me for months. I can't seem to understand whether it is my insecurity or my just another normal preference. So help me with it.