So I think there is a conflict between MRP principles and what women say they want (par for the course, right?). MRP tells us to be stoic. Be the rock. No victim puke. Yet I am sure that you have heard your LTR/SO talk about how she loves a sensitive man. But what does sensitive mean? Through trial, fuck ups and MRP, I think I have figured it out - at least for my snowflake.

Example #01 (Fuck up A) I was having a dumb (on my part) conversation with the wife. It got heated and… I said, “I feel like you….” blah, blah, blah...victim puke. She cut me off. Her response, “You don’t deserve to have feelings!”. W-T-F. LOL..that was a blow, but again - a red pill truth. Women don’t want to hear your shit.

Example #02 (Fuck up B) Wife was sitting on the couch with our daughter (7yr old). My daughter tells my wife that her breath stinks and my daughter starts waving her hands and holding her nose (I was in the kitchen and did not hear/see). The wife blows up - she felt disrespected. The wife comes into the kitchen to tell me what went down. I cut it short and tell the wife she needs to set and enforce boundaries with our daugher - simple. My daughter knows not to pull that shit with me. I then change the conversation. Later, we are in the car and my wife throws out some bitchy comment about me not supporting her when our daughter is disrespectful. WTF? I gave her a solution, right?

I get home later that night and the wife is still upset. We chat. And what do you think she is upset about. If you’ve guessed, It’s not that I don’t support her. When she came to bitch about our daughter that morning I did not let her indulge in her FEELZ. I cut her off and proposed a solution - which is NOT what she wanted. She wanted to bathe in her emotions at the time. Dammit! I know this shit! Once I recognized what was up (fucking MRP), the situation is swiftly resolved.

Example #03 (Sowing the seeds) So my wife sees me as stoic (at least 90% of the time). She has said I have no feelings. With DEVI in mind I have been working on this. So one night I tell her a story of how my dad disappointed me when I was a kid. It was not victim puke as I was not upset, it was a purposeful look into how I want to bring up our son based on my upbringing. She was surprised and delighted as I had never shared the story with her.

Fast forward to about a week later. We are at our son’s 5th b-day party. It’s a TMNT themed party. I come dressed out as a ninja turtle to pay with the kids. My wife overhears my son proudly say to his friends “That’s my dad!”. Later that night, my wife tells me how emotional she got when she heard my son because of the story I shared with her about my dad earlier. FEELZ sowed and will be reaped soon.

Summary

No one (especially your wife) wants to hear your puke and it makes you look weak. ANY sign of neediness makes you look like a pussy - she does not want another kid to coddle. Avoid that shit at all cost. Women will talk about wanting closeness and having a sensitive man. What that really means is a man being sensitive (listening) to THEIR feelings. This does not mean reacting to or fixing their problem. That means knowing how to let a woman indulge in HER OWN emotions (FEELZ) - not you sharing your shit with them. It means being their unmoving rock while the waves of her FEELZ crash against you. A rock does not move. A rock does not speak. But a rock has presence.

For the more advanced MRP’s out there, you can strategically and selectively plant seeds of “emotion”. That means purposeful sharing of “nuggets of you” (I will get shit for that term) that will strengthen the emotional bond with your wife. And then you can strategically leverage that bond. Sounds a lot like manipulation but...hey, someone’s sexual strategy has to win. If your's wins, you both win. If her's win, you will lose.

TLDR: Listen to your wife’s puke, don’t share your puke, sow and harvest strategic “nuggets of you” (need a better term for that)