Edit: I apologize if my poor writing has made this seem like a braggadocios post. I'm working on communicating better and from the feedback I got here I realize I need a LOT of work there.

This may have been trying wrong sub to come to for this advice and I written my question/concern wrong and I'll take the fault for that. Posting this to a college sub might be more appropriate or asktrp.

The problem I had was

My girlfriend is trying to add some more productive habits to her life but the adjustment is affecting her academics. I'm worried because she's in danger of losing her scholarship. When I try to advise her about these things it comes off as me saying she can't do things I can. I'm only trying to help her since I see she has her plate full.

Edit 2: Thank you for the words. I've learned a lot about myself reading this feedback. This question should have been asked at asktrp or rather a college subreddit.

While I was busy thinking I was looking for advice, I was"masterbating" and making this post longer than it needed to be you guys noticed that. I honestly thought I was simply seeking help but apparently I wasn't. I did not know this about myself but you guys were able to read it through my writing which means I subconscious was. (I think). After the comments (which honestly weren't as harsh as I took them) I've realized my hamstering and would like to apologizing for posting this here where it doesn't belong.

Honestly her academics and plans for accomplishing her goals are none of my concerns. If she wishes to do x and y all I can do is offer my advice and she'll have to deal with the consequences. I can not father and baby her as she's an adult now.

As for myself, I now realize how weak my frame is, how outcome dependent I am and how much of a little bitch I am if I felt bad reading these comments.

Thank you again for this lesson. I came in looking for something I wanted and left with what I needed to learn about my self.