Over a year ago when we got married, my wife was so full of life and I fed off that...we made plans and did our best to see them done. But a few months into our getting a place together she one day said she wanted/needed to be with her mother to help as her mother was ill. I didnt like it but agreed. Looking back I guess I didnt see anything coming, but it did. After the holidays of 2020, I settled into a new company and saw her daily...it was tolerable that we did lots of stuff, had a decent sex life and was as close as a couple could be without living together, things settled in a 'see ya tomorrow, ok bye love you' thing. So a few months go by...March maybe, still not living at home and its been 5-6 months she hasnt lived with me at this point. I begin having feelings of frustration and start saying I want her home more. Sex life significantly drops to a once a week maybe twice a month thing. Into April and Im trying to hang on. The entire time she has bouts of depression and high anxiety. I stay the man she met. Faithful and honest and always show my affection. May comes. Suddenly a long lost male cousin she has never met wants to relocate here and she snaps to action to go help him. I am pretty much left out of the majority of this and at this point I learn she went to go get him and didnt tell me until she had made two trips to help him - out of state. Now I work f/t and on my days off we always did stuff but that stopped when he came. She blew me off to spend time with her cousin more than once...I wasnt happy. I began to think about calling her out. Sex life is non existent now. Which leads me to why she wont come home even to spend time with me Our landlord. She has utter hatetred for the landlord, so she now refuses to even come to the place we once got together. We separated and yes its hell Should I just divorce her or not?