I (48m) have been married to my wife (51f) for 10 years and we’ve been together 15. This is my 3rd marriage and I have a long history of being a “rescuer”. I thought this time was different. We knew each other in much school and reconnected when we were both going through a divorce. I have no kids and she has 2, now grown, daughters and 3 grandkids, that were born after our marriage. We lived out of state for about 8 years after we got married and things were pretty good. We really only had each other but we made the best of it. I worked from home and she worked part time so we were together a lot. We’ve since moved back to our home state to be near family and I now work a full time job outside of the home. I’ve noticed that I’m totally different than when we left. I go to work and come home or go to sporting events for the grand kids. I rarely go see my family or really do anything. I’ve had multiple old friends and some family tell me I don’t seem myself and they miss my laugh. I have a great team at work and k have noticed when we have functions outside of work I feel awkward when my wife is with me…I realized that I feel like I can’t be myself when she’s with me but, instead, I have to be beside her and be the person she expects. She’s even commented that she can’t believe I did this or that (nothing drastic) because it’s not like me. To me it felt great to let go and be myself. I feel like I’m living with my best friend but there is no intimacy and no spark. I’m content, but not happy. I keep telling myself that maybe this is what it’s like with a longer marriage and getting older. I’m confused and don’t know if I should consider leaving, tell her I want counseling, or just accept that this life is the best it’s going to be and be content. tl;dr I feel like I can’t be myself in my marriage and others have commented I’m not the same person. Is this just what getting older and being married should be?