Hi. I've just joined this sub and I'm just reaching out here, but has anyone ever ever totally lost their sex drive?

About two months ago mine just seemed to vanish and it's really upsetting me. I'm 43 by the way, and have always had a strong to normal libido and haven't even been that depressed lately so I don't understand why it's happened.

I'm not sure what to do.

It's especially upsetting for me, because after 5 years of being single, doing the internet dating thing and being quite depressed because I get lonely and am not able to meet anyone to meet anyone, I seem to have met someone.

We have had two dates so far and she's a lovely woman but there is zero going on for me sexually. My "down there" area just feels like a void.

On our first date I think she was expecting me to give her a kiss goodnight and I didn't, and then a few days ago after our second date, I'm certain she was. Yet, I've totally recoiled from it all and at the moment touching another human being seems totally alien to me. It's not just with others though, I've also lost any inclination to masturbate.

She's asking me to meet up again with her at the weekend but I don't know if it's wise. She's a nice person and i don't want to hurt her. Should I just be honest with her? I worry she will think it's an excuse or worse that she isn't attractive.

Just hoping that others here may have gone through the same things and if so how did it pan out?

Edit: I don't take any medication for depression or anything else