So I'm a fat trans guy nearing 30, and I don't know wtf to wear anymore. When I was younger I went through a few fashion phases- emo, folkpunk, dapper, etc- but nothing stuck. Currently I live in a pretty conservative town, so I don't feel safe dressing especially queer, but I also feel weird dressing like I'm obsessed with "passing" or something, and I'm single so I want to be attractive to other queers so I feel like I need to do some sort of signaling lol

A lot of stuff just doesn't feel practical, I work as an artist which is messy a lot of the time, so dressing dapper again for example feels like I'm burning money.

On top of that, I'm 29 but being trans and fat I look younger- no beard either. I don't want to look like I'm 12 so most casual wear is a problem, especially the more playful stuff, but dress shirts make me look like I'm playing dressup with my dad's closet. My hair is thinning in the front too, and I have always liked hats, but it feels like those are the worst for making me look too young or like I'm playing grandpa in the highschool play.

My gramma was like "just wear black, a black tshirt and black jeans" which is the art school uniform anyway (though I haven't been a student in years now) so I've been doing that and it seems fine, but is that really just it? Should I just stop worrying and be playful and just try to ignore how I'm perceived?

So yeah, Idk what I should be doing, let alone where I should shop, any suggestions?