Not sure why, but people in America seems oddly entitled with the way they try to make friends.

For most people the way they behave seems to imply you have to give without wanting anything from them, offer them a boost in self esteem or social status (without them doing anything to earn it), offer to lead or provide all the entertainment or services (again without them doing anything to even warrant it)

For some reason it feels like that unless I show off to people what I can do and am capable of, nobody wants to get to know each other, and it seems like I have to "overcompensate" by proving myself to them... when I have zero clue who they are.

So far my experience is that most people will only let you get to know them if they fall in love with you first, and it feels pretty shitty to have to go above and beyond for somone I know nothing about and can't love back (as I don't know them, how can I even be interested in them, yet alone love them).

Another thing is trying to help them and getting to know them by helping with the issues and excuses they give for why they have no time to get to know anybody is annoying too, as they say they need more money for food and rent and have to work.... I offer help and sometimes even what they say they need and suddenly they are too proud to accept the help they said they need.

Can anyone explain their standard of making friends or even putting effort into getting to know somone? What about what will motovate you to be open to even talking to somone. This may help me figure out if I am missing somthing or it's just the 99% of people I talk to.