I just figured out I can go through phone records. I know, silly for me to wait this long. Since DDay, it seems like WH has kept his word - minus a “relapse” with porn about a week in to R. Last night I saw messages from an unfamiliar out of state number, I looked it up and lo and behold it’s a transgender prostitute. WH came clean and said the boundaries I put up this week bc I haven’t been happy in our marriage since DDay were “too much” for him and he wanted the attention. I asked for a divorce. I’m not strong enough for this after all he’s put me through so far with his EA. Am I being dramatic? I’m so hurt, it genuinely feels like he doesn’t care about me or love me if he can throw it all away that easy, just because I need to take a step back for myself. Any wives of SA/PA’s, I could use whatever you’ve got to give me now, positive or negative