Dday was 3.5 weeks ago. My husbands PA escalated into a EA with an ex. He was taking the right steps, joining SAA and IC, along with MC. I looked through his phone Sunday after not going through it since Dday and didn’t find anything alarming. Today, I asked him when he masturbated last, turns out it was just Friday night while I was at work. While I expressed to him I was nervous about leaving him alone and was constantly checking on him to see if he was okay. Now, I am obviously upset that what little trust was built back is gone AND that he’s hiding it from me, because it wasn’t in his history when I checked his phone. I told him that day that I’m not stupid and I know he’s not either and he has the ability to delete what he doesn’t want me to see. What do I do now? He broke down in tears explaining to me that he fucked up and he knows he hurt me but was depressed and lonely and didn’t have any other coping mechanisms to turn to. His friends haven’t even talked to him since I told them about the affair. Do I try the 90 day reset? Do I install porn blockers or activity trackers? He used an incognito window in his browser so I’m not sure if one will work. I suggested more SAA meetings weekly, but he said he’s not comfortable with it. I don’t think he’s serious about recovery if he can attempt to justify a relapse on “just pornhub” because he wasn’t “buying porn this time”, or am I being insensitive and not expect him to quit cold turkey?