My bf (35m) lately has been telling me (35f) that he loves the way I love him, that he has never felt so loved and supported in a relationship. That I am helping him with his trust issues and trauma, that it’s taking some “getting used to”. He says I’m the best gf he’s ever had. Well yeah, I’m pretty good to him. I bring him lunch, support him through some low times, including ptsd stuff. We have been together 6 months. I’m very generous with my affection, as is he. We share the same love language of touch and words of affirmation and express it often. He tells me he loves me several times daily, spends all his time with me. He listens, he compliments me. He gets to know my family, he puts effort in.

I have this nagging fear that he only loves me because of what I do for him. He treats me better than I have ever been treated, holds doors, does small acts of love daily. Little things, like plugging in each other’s phone at night or getting water. But yet I feel like I’m constantly comparing my love to his. Like I love him more than he loves me. Or maybe he loved someone else more than he loved me. It’s silly. Why do I feel like his love his not enough?

Do you think being deeply loved my someone and learning to trust them enhances the feelings you have for that person?