I'm a college student and all around me I keep seeing people lose their virginity, one of my roommates might do so tonight even depending on how things go with this girl our other roommate set him up with. Two other guys I know lost it recently, one to his GF and another to a hook-up.

Well, I'm still a virgin myself and, I don't want to lose it to a hook-up. I probably could one of my best friends knows lots of women who'd probably go for that but my ideals about how sex and love relate make me very against the idea personally. I'm unable to separate sexual attraction from the feeling of love for someone. I mean, I have felt lust for women I wasn't in love with but, I know I don't want that to be my first experience with sex.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm missing out by not doing that, but then I remember that, maybe I am but it doesn't matter because in the long run I'll be more upset about going against the things I value. I don't value sex just for the sake or pleasure of it, I value it for the connection and closeness it may (I don't actually know that it does cause yeah virgin) bring. At least, from what I can tell I do, of course I'm not entirely sure since I haven't experienced it but I know myself enough to know why I value people and that ties into it.

Edit: So after seeing how things went with my roommates last night on their hookups, I'm completely good with not doing hookups. It went extremely disastrously and I basically had to clean up their mess and entertain the girls they brought over while they thought of a lie to get them out of our dorm. Felt like a disappointed parent ngl 😂