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Ever since I was young I had this idea that there’s a truly life changing, beautiful love out there for everyone, where this person is your perfect match. I think it’s influence by my parents as well - they are literal soul mates in every sense of the word. They’ve been married for 34 years and have never spent more than a week apart. They have the same sense of humour, can talk for hours on end, confide in each other about everything and just seem like they were made for each other. They met in a very spontaneous way and married quickly, and have been inseparable ever since. They love each other so much that I truly believe that if one of them passes away, the other one will die of a broken heart. Has anyone here witnessed or experienced love like this? Should I have hope I’ll find something like this in today’s world, or would you consider it to be quite rare?
And that's the point you are making to mine because I am saying that what the original poster actually said is not codependent in the toxic way.
Not sure I agree.. defined by who exactly? academics? If two people who are deeply attached to each other elevate and allow each other to grow independently without weighing them down but also are very closely involved with each other in a way that makes each other comfortable than how is this toxic? The issue arises when there are restrictions or an inability to behave dependently and make independent decisions separate to the emotions of someone else. A lot of things looks codependent on surface but isn't in action
Fair enough, sometimes people are gushing online and want to express themselves in an over the top way and it doesn't necessarily mean it's negative. I get your point though. Ultimately, we are who we say we are online up until the point that we behave badly. Kind of have to take these things at face value on the someone was asking for advice.
For almost 18 years strong I have always felt that if you let go of that love, and view of others relationships you will want more and more and changes your love is perfect because it's yours you and your partner make the love your meant to have no love is perfect but the love you build together is
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Why is codependency all bad if it isn't toxic?