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My girlfriend went through a lot before me and I'm wondering if she's still capable of truly loving again
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So long story short(I'll try to compress as well as I can sorry) gf before she met me had her heart broken badly in her previous relationships(she was in three relationships before me), first one cheated on her, second one grope her crotch (this made her not want sex or kids hence why she's a virgin) and third well, she loved him but he only saw her as a friend n the guy went to jail for stealing at work, and soon show was alone/single and it just got worse from there, after the last person broke her heart, she slowly entered a phase of reclusiveness, this lasted for a little over a year before she met me. Before she became my gf she explains to me how she doesn't like men(in a sense that she has a bad outlook of them as she hates guys who are arrogant and what not) and how she couldn't be in a relationship because she doesn't want sex, she doesn't want kids(btw she was willing, before her heart got broken numerous times) and she doesn't want to give up her V card. Fast forward to when I became her bf, she made an exception for me because I was soft, gentle, a good listener, not arrogant, friendly and understanding, and that I actually put effort, she described me as a "golden boy"...I guess my character is what made her gave me a chance(she became my gf on May of this year).

Fast forward to now. She now shows more of her true nature, we had a phone call about it, she says how she can almost can almost love but not really, as a quote "I am not truly capable of loving anymore. It's kinda like love, but to actually love I can't. Not anymore. I can care. At times I can sympathize. Other times I can't. There are times I feel some things and other times I feel nothing." She says she has a lot of intrusive thoughts and anger in her mind everyday, but the good news is she did tell me she plans to see a therapist later this year or next year(due to expenses). I understand her character as I was once sorta in the same state a few years ago, and I have a lot of patience and understanding for her, for now I just try to support and love her, and was wondering if therapy is indeed capable of allowing her to feel emotions again, to truly have joy, love and happiness. I just want to be a good boyfriend for her and be by her side til she heals, as I see potential in her and I don't want her to live a reclusive emotionless life. She says that my sacrifices and my character is what gave her the motive to give me a chance to be her bf in the first place. It's nice to know that. And I plan to marry her one day and just treat her the way she deserves to be treated, I feel like she's a lost soul who just needs love and care to get back on track so to say.

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