I have a female friend who is 27. She is beautiful, she’s fit, she’s fun, she’s intelligent. She has a good paying job. She has had two past relationships. Now, she has been dating for 3 years and hasn’t found her one. She has been dating a guy for a month and a half. And, they are acting like a couple but he has not asked her to be official. She said she is going to ask him if he wants to move forward to that step and if he doesn’t know after this amount of time, she’s calling it off and will be single for awhile.

She said she has always wanted to be a mother. And she said she’d be happy to adopt a child on her because she shouldn’t have to wait for a man. I will support whatever she does. I just find it a bit interesting because I feel like 27 is a bit young to say to yourself, “I’m not finding a man so I might as well have a child on my own.” I do feel like she has great potential but the dating pool is really rough!

For myself, I relate. One of single coworkers just bought a house by himself. And, we make similar income. I also have the means to buy my own place (I’m 25F) but I always envisioned doing it with a partner so I am renting for now. I’ve told myself that if I don’t have a partner by 30, then I should consider buying a home on my own.

EDIT: I wish I had revised this to say give up on LOOKING for love. Because part of this comes from being burnt out from dating apps, going to dating mixers, approaching people in bars, dates in general which is exhausting. That’s different from moving on with life, going after whatever goals we have (house or having a child) without looking but being open if it finds us.