I’m currently in the process of trying to reconcile with a past best friend, we had plans a week prior to meetup for coffee with me, her and her fiancé. My message was left on read for about a week, and I followed up on more details, they eventually replied that they thought about it more and felt uncomfortable meeting up.

I respect her honesty, I personally feel my time is not being respected since previously agreed to wait a couple of weeks with her to decide on a meetup due to mental health issues, brought it up after the weeks and she seemed ecstatic to meetup, sent a date and edited that date an extra week later thinking I did not see the original date, then 180’d. A bit of more context, she wants to take steps to like playing games together, then voicing, etc. I personally feel ready and have done my personal healing when we were in no contact for about 7 months. During this time, I got ghosted by a lot of people that I thought were friends, following up not just once or twice, sometimes even thrice. And she wants me to apologize to the people that ignored me which claim were hurt, I’m open to making amends where it’s due, I just want to convey that I have proof of these people ghosting me, and in turn I ignored them when they gave greetings when I was at work (I was still cordial with them in person since they sometimes pass by my work, until I found out they were propagating a lie that they “tried to make amends” which never happened)

Sorry for the wall of text. I don’t want to rush things, and I don’t want to to ignore my feelings of my time not being respected. I’ve been thinking of a response to the message for the past day and I want some advice on my structure, or what I can change for the better to shorten it and make it more concise, I have a bad habit of word vomiting or saying too much.

Response as follows, Hey, thanks for sharing your feelings about reconnecting. I’ve been focusing on my own healing and feel ready to reconnect, I understand and respect your need for a slower approach. I’m okay with starting off by gaming without comms, and if you’re up for it, maybe we can introduce vc a bit sooner as you become comfortable since I don’t really play much anymore and we’ve been playing a bit lol

I was really looking forward to our planned meetup for coffee and catch up, if you’re up for it we can reschedule to find a middle ground that respects both our time. As I feel ready and have been healing since last year.

Regarding the apologies to others, could we discuss this more? I want to fully understand the context to ensure my actions are thoughtful and genuine. I was made aware of a couple of things that were said about me early on, [Past Mutual] told me in passing, and I can provide proof/logs to backup my actions or claims, I’m still open to making amends where it’s due.

I appreciate your honesty “Her”, and I’m looking forward to finding a way to reconnect that works for you, and respects both our efforts and time.

tldr: Need help on my response to make it shorter and or better to reconcile on recent change of plans